10 Tips That Can Save Caregivers’ Sanity

If you’re like most caregivers for sick or elderly loved ones, the relentless responsibilities can get you down. Caregiving is often lonely, always tiring, and it can cause social disconnection and feelings of isolation.

Here are 10 tips that can provide respite from the “sameness” of day-to-day responsibilities for caring for Alzheimer’s’ or dementia patients. Perhaps they will provide you, as they do me, with a refreshed outlook and a way to deal with the inexorable pressure of caregiving:

1. When you get frustrated, impatient, or burned-out, sit down, and ask yourself: “what will make me happy at this very moment?” For me, it’s an ice cream cone. For others, it may be a manicure or pedicure, movie, or just calling a friend for lunch and catch-up. In order to treat yourself, though, you need someone to take over so that you can take a break.
2. Lose yourself in a book for a few minutes. Mentally taking yourself out of your immediate environment and returning to it after a respite can make a big difference in how you feel and how you handle problem-solving.
3. Accept help. Be prepared with a list of ways that others can help you, and let the helper choose what he or she would like to do. For instance, a friend may offer to take the person you care for on a walk a couple of times a week. Or a friend or family member may be able to run an errand, pick up your groceries or cook for you.
4. Focus on what you are able to provide. It’s normal to feel guilty sometimes but understand that no one is a “perfect” caregiver. Believe that you are doing the best you can and making the best decisions you can at any given time.
5. Set realistic goals. Break large tasks into smaller steps that you can do one at a time. Prioritize, make lists and establish a daily routine. Begin to say no to requests that are draining, such as hosting holiday meals.
6. Get connected. Find out about caregiving resources in your community. Many communities have classes specifically about the disease your loved one is facing. Caregiving services such as transportation, meal delivery or housekeeping may be available.
7. Join a support group. A support group can provide validation and encouragement, as well as problem-solving strategies for difficult situations. People in support groups understand what you may be going through. A support group can also be a good place to create meaningful friendships.
8. Seek social support. Make an effort to stay well-connected with family and friends who can offer nonjudgmental emotional support. Set aside time each week for connecting, even if it’s just a walk with a friend.
9. Set personal health goals. For example, set goals to establish a good sleep routine, find time to be physically active on most days of the week, eat a healthy diet and drink plenty of water.
10. Many caregivers have issues with sleeping. Not getting quality sleep over a long period of time can cause health issues. If you have trouble getting a good night’s sleep, talk to your doctor.

We need to take care of ourselves, even as we care for others.

We want to hear from you, so feel free to share tips, ideas, and resources for seniors with Grannybooster. Email me, Maris Somerville, at info@grannybooster.com